different opinions and views = our uniqueness

Something that tends to ruin friendships and relationships is arguing about different options. I have spent hours and hours thinking about why I am so eager to defend my opinion about a specific thing. How come we allow this to ruin our day, our time together? 

I feel sometimes we are so blind and leading with our egos that we forget that we are just trying to prove a point with aggression and make the other person wrong. But if it is not the case?  If we could just see a bigger picture in all this?

I have experienced lots of these situations…I used to fight and scream for my opinions. Looking back, it makes me laugh not because I was wrong or something (probably sometimes I was, but that's a story for a different day) but because I was spending so much energy sticking with my truth and not seeing another way, ruing my day and friendships. 

I still sometimes get caught up in situations where I feel I need to prove to people around me how I see things and what my perspective is.. Get some kind of validation or acceptance, I guess.  We are so stubborn and do not want to let go of this.  

 Why do we even want everyone to think and see things like us? 

We are all so different in a way. Each of us has different backgrounds, beliefs, and experiences, and we consume different books, articles, listen to different mentors and teachers, films, and podcasts. Each one of us gets inspired in completely different ways. 

Can you imagine everyone around you would see things just like you? From your perspective. 

Where is the fun in that? All being clones, the world would be so blank and empty. That sounds so boring.

I think there is beauty in the sense that each of us sees the world in a different light and colors. 

How beautiful it is that you can experience different points of view with each conversation. Look at it from another person's eyes. The more I think about it, the more I love that. 

Not gonna lie, sometimes it’s hard to keep this in your mind when you are in the moment with your partner or friend, and all you feel is attack, feeling that you need to protect yourself, aka your view.

Just need to remember there is no right view, it's all perspective. 

Sometimes we are looking for acceptance from others or being understood, but it's alright not to be. Just let go of that, and you will feel a sense of freedom in it. Then you do not need to prove anything to anyone. It is your truth, and it is your view. 

I have struggled and still do, but I want this to be reminded to me and you, because we are all humans with all our mushy feelings and experiences.

Life is beautiful just because we see things differently. And how much fun is it to see and hear from the side you have never seen or heard? 

Let’s accept our loved ones, neighbors, and specially ones whom we seem not to understand. Accept and do not judge, even if we do not understand or agree. We are here to be and love. 

With all my love, my beautiful souls, 

egso